Thursday, September 21, 2006

Speak No Evil

Why gossip is bad for your soul
By Lori Palatnik with Bob Burg
*(an excerpt)

A nineteenth-century folktale tells about a man who went about town slandering the town's wise man. One day, he went to the wise man's home and asked for forgiveness. The wise man, realizing that this man had not internalized the gravity of his transgressions, told him that he would forgive him on one condition: that he go home, take a feather pillow from his house, cut it up, and scatter the feathers to the wind. After he had done so, he should then return to the wise man's house.

Though puzzled by this strange request, the man was happy to be let off with so easy a penance. He quickly cut up the pillow, scattered the feathers, and returned to the house.

"Am I now forgiven?" he asked.

"Just one more thing," the wise man said. "Go now and gather up all the feathers."

"But that's impossible. The wind has already scattered them."

"Precisely," he answered. "And though you may truly wish to correct the evil you have done, it is as impossible to repair the damage done by your words as it is to recover the feathers. Your words are out there in the marketplace, spreading hate, even as we speak."

How interesting it is that we, as human beings, so quick to believe the bad that others say about someone, so accepting of the "news" contained in print and television tabloids, and so ready to assume the worst regarding another's actions, actually allow ourselves to believe that the evil we spread about someone won't really matter. Incredible that we can't seem to immediately and resolutely accept the fact that the gossip we speak can--and often does--significant damage to that person.

Bob's friend, Paul Myers, says, "Gossip is like a fired bullet. Once you hear the sound, you can't take it back." That is what the man in the above story found out in a very disappointing, shameful moment of self-discovery. And it isn't just what we say about someone to others, but what we say to that person directly as well. We've all been told that "Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never harm me." We also know that is totally untrue. While a body will typically recover from a physical injury, the harm caused by direct insults can sometimes last a lifetime, and tear the self-esteem right out of a person.

On the other hand, kind, encouraging words can build a person's self-esteem, help him or her to grow and give them the impetus they need to do great, significant things with their lives. The choice regarding how we speak about or to someone is ours. It's called "free will."

Things to be thankful for:
1. Another wonderful day to spend with family and friends.
2. No Sup calls for today.
3. The proposal for 9:30 shift was approved instead of 10 pm (that is before DST starts, but I'm still thankful for it)
4. I was able to arrive at work on time. I almost forgot that I have to report to work an hour earlier..wheeew! Thanks to my sis, she was able to wake me up (yeah...she was shouting at me).
5. I was able to beat Sheela's (my sis) score in Need4Speed! woohoo :) She used to tell me "nakaka awa ka naman...tsk..tsk...tsk..."
6. Long nice chat with my sis at heart NiQ. Miss u dearie.

Tuesday, September 19, 2006


I have a new obsession ~ making collage ~ I love pictures soooo much. I love collecting old photos, taking pictures then look at them and of course striking a pose in front of the cam I'm actually good at it...Call me Ms. Photogenic...kidding but that is true..hahaha! I know my dear friend Cha would agree...because she is the one who taught me on how to properly project in front of the cam. She's the guru and I am her apprentice...

I am also into scrapbooking. I was so addicted to it...I would even stay up late at night just to finish my project and I usually ended up scolded by mommy...hahaha...

If you are the creative type, this is a good hobby for you...for me it's works just fine. There's something good and bad to it... GOOD: It unleashes my creativity. BAD: it is quite costly, I usually spend almost half of my salary just to buy those cutie materials..some of them I don't use but because they are very nice to look at...I still buy them. My reason for that - "Sa susunod wala ka nang mabibiling ganito...tago ko muna magagamit rin someday."

Whenever I see a picture taken, candid or gives me a mix of can be happy or sad. Every photograph tells a story, it indicates relationships within and among the person in the picture. They are a reflection and definition of self.

Things to be thankful for....
1. Another wonderful day to spend with family and friends.
2. MuMu's VISA was approved. Yey, Cha! (If you are all wonderin as to who is mumu..well..he is Cha's hubby...I mean soon to be hubby).
3. My sister woke up in the right side of the bed!
4. My friend Joms, gave me a bracelet..yey..pasalubong.
5. Migraine only lasted for 20 minutes...woohoo!
6. Lunch with Cha...( the other day pa) and for always being there...(online everyday!)

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Monday, September 18, 2006

Obsessed with Pictures

Wednesday, September 13, 2006

The Bus

A dear friend shared this to me....and I would also like to share it to you guyz (because ur special..hahaha)...

Love is like waiting for a bus. When the bus comes, you look at it and you say to yourself " full....cannot sit down, I'll wait for the next one."

So you let the bus go and waited for the second bus. Then the second bus came, you looked at it and you said, "eeee...this bus is so shabby!"

So you let the bus go and again, decided to wait for the next bus.

After a while another bus came. It's not crowded, not old but you said,
"eeee...not air conditioned ... better wait for the next one."

So again you let the bus go and decided to wait for the next bus.

Then the sky started to get dark as it was getting late. You panicked and
jumped immediately inside the next bus. It is not until much later that you
found out that you had boarded the wrong bus!

And you wasted your time and money just to get into the wrong one!

Even if an air conditioned bus comes, you can't ensure that the air
conditioned bus won't break down or whether or not the airconditioner will be too cold for you.

Wanting to get what you want is not wrong. But it wouldn't hurt to give other people a chance. If you find that the "bus" doesn't suit you just press the red button and get off the bus! Hey, who said life is fair???

The best thing to do is be observant and open-minded. If it doesn't suit you, get off.

I'm sure you've had this experience before. You saw a bus coming (the bus you want of course). You flagged it but the driver acted as if he did not see you and zoomed past you! It just wasn't meant for you!

The bottom line is, being loved is like waiting for a bus you want. Getting on
the bus and appreciating the bus by giving it a chance depends totally on you. If you haven't made any choice, WALK!

is like being single. The good side of it is you can still choose any
bus you want...the rest who couldn't afford another ride would just have to be content with the bus they rode on, ugly or not.

Also, sometimes it is better to choose a bus you are already familiar with
rather than to gamble with a bus that is unfamiliar to you. But then again,
life wouldn't be complete without the
risks involved.

But there is one bus that I failed to tell you about.- the Bus you do not have to wait for, the Bus that will stop on its own and ask you if you wish to come inside, then take you for a joy ride for the rest of your life.

Hope you get to ride on that bus! :)

Dinner :: Reunion

I've been very busy these past few weeks but I was still able to manage my time and spend some quality time with family and friends. For the last 2 weekends, I hanged out with good old friends. Last 2 weekend ago, Me and the gang (Ann Ganda, Boss Liit, Sexy Nhey, Papa Xtian, ShoeGerl Nikki and Naughty Gless) went to Chic N Ribs. We had a wonderful dinner and we had a mini concierto! Yeah, we sang and we sang till out heart's content. Good thing it didn't rain that day...I guess that means we didn't suck big time. =) We also found out that Naughty Gless has a talent in singing, right Teti? She is the Perfect Artist! And Arc- she's the new VideoKe Queen, Regine Velasquez is no match for her. She knows how to sing almost all of the song in the list, whether it's an old song or novelty song...she knows it all! I really had a wonderful time with you guys even though we didn't have enough time to sit around and chitchat (because all of you are busy looking at the list of songs you want to sing..hahaha!)

On the other hand, last friday was B - O - N - D - I - N - G time for me and my old friends (my batchmates)...They are the group of people I became friends with when I just started working in AOL. I missed them so much...after a year or two, this is the first time we had dinner altogether..but sadly Ann Ganda couldn't join us. She's already 8 months pregnant that is why she wasn't able to join the fun. I sent her some pictures, inggit ka sobra alam ko..hahaha! Here are some of our pics....

Teti :: Lamae :: Bless :: Jen:: Yours truly....

Pretty Jen :: Me ::Budong a.k.a. Super Inggo (peace Allen!)

Allen :: Teti :: Lamae :: Blessilda

Allen (again?! ur always present in every pic) = Lamae = Blessie

Reasons to be Thankful for today:
1. For giving me another wonderful day to spend sometime with my family and friends
2. To Ira, Nancy and Cha for always being there for me...My sister friends! Nanc, thanks for the wonderful testi...
3. I was able to drive home safely from work eventhough I was really sleepy while driving.
4. Nice chat with an old friend (college days)
5. No Supervisor calls for today! woohoo!

Till next time....

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Friday, September 8, 2006


I'm missing my very good friend, Ira. I haven't seen her in a long time. I cherish my memories of her so much....Though we are far apart, she will always be one of the most important person in my life. She was always there for me, there to encourage me, there to comfort me. We all go through a stage in life where we feel alone in the world and no one seems to understand our pain. No one that is, until you realize that there is a special person in the world called your friend and they can make it all better. She was my biggest supporter in both the good and the bad. I will never give up hope that our paths are destined to cross again. She was the sweetest part of my life for so long, I miss her positive outlook on life, her ready smile and most of all the way she genuinely cared about me. She will always have a special place in my heart.A true friendship that lasts throughout the years is rare indeed, and to be treasured as a priceless gift. Thank you for the Friendship....and today on your very special day I wish you all the best life can offer. Love you so much, Friend.

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mostcollyn 9/13/06 11:17 PM Permalink
I am soooo happy you liked it! miss you so much....i can't think of any other gift but this one...and isa pa mahal mag pa dala ng package dyan dito nalang muna tipid tipid. Muah Muah! Can't wait for you to come home.....
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awwww. thanks collyn. i never someone would think of me this way. love you! you gave me one of the best birthday presents ever! love you!

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